Update: What I learned about myself from it all, and the best in 2008 to you

December 28, 2007 at 6:08 am | Posted in Those who supported me during my recovery, TNT | 1 Comment

I had a good friend who I lost touch with in the last couple of years. She googled me and found this blog. She got concerned, though, because there hadn’t been any updates since June. In an email to me seemed to be afraid that something had happened to me.

So to Angela, and everyone else, I’ve been fine. In fact, I ended up enjoying the Team in Training experience so much I did another event as a fundraiser for the Leukemia & Lymphoma Society. I did the Santa Barbara Half Marathon in early November. It also went extremely well, and raised another $2,500. That means that between the two events in 2007 I raised over $9,000 for research into blood cancers. Yay!

I also learned something very important about myself through these events. I sent it out in a note to my supporters over the holidays, but I wanted to share it here, too:

During the holidays it’s common to look back on what has happened in our lives the previous twelve months. As you know, this May I celebrated my fifth year of being and complete remission and good health from leukemia by running a marathon, the San Diego Rock N’ Roll Marathon on June 6 to raise funds for the Leukemia & Lymphoma Society. I enjoyed the experience so much that I ran another half marathon as a fundraiser, The Santa Barbara Half, in early November. I can’t express enough thanks to you for contributing and to help raise funds for leukemia research.’

“But, there’s one other thing about completing these events that make me very grateful….

I spent many years in recovery not truly understanding what I was supposed to “get” out of having leukemia. You hear about people who after recovering climb Mt. Killamanjaro or something, or have a renewed understanding of life. I never got that, and always thought I had “missed” something.

“I realized something about myself through my two events this year – there’s a lot of similarity between going through chemotherapy and completing an endurance athletic event. Both have stretches that, even with the best of training (or, conversely, the best of medical treatment), require a LOT of strength, perseverance and determination to make it to the finish. To complete either means a lot, to complete both means even more, and to appreciate the strength and perseverance one actually has from life experiences is, well, as they say, priceless.

“THANK YOU for helping to make this, and the over $9,000 raised for leukemia research, possible.

“The best of health, happiness and peace to you and your loved ones in 2008.”

0549039-r1-045-21.jpg

 

p1000297-1.jpg

And one final thought — Watch this space in 2008 for more to come. Here’s a hint: I just bought a road bike…..

 

 

Advertisements

People who’ve supported me #6 — surprises

February 8, 2007 at 8:34 am | Posted in AIG, Those who supported me during my recovery | Leave a comment

I was the very fortunate beneficiary of support during my illness and recovery from a lot of people in a lot of areas — family, friends, co-workers, acquaintances, business partners, — many many types of people. Some I’ve talked about so far, and others I will soon.

But there were a few surprises. When I say surprises, I don’t mean people, although some people I weren’t expecting to hear from. It was how I reacted that was the surprise. Certain people, either during my recovery, or the first time I saw them after, told me that they thought of me often, they prayed about me, or something similar. The big surprise was my response. I knew. I knew they had, and I had felt it. Not that I had felt it at that moment, but somehow, inside, I’d think, “Yes, you did. I know.”

It happened in a couple of instances with people who told me they had prayed for me. One of the people at AIG Consultants I work with, Beverly Cottle, told me that she had prayed for me in her church on most Sundays. Another person I hadn’t heard from in over 30 years, an old school friend in my older brother’s class, Brenda Taylor Baranowski, sent me a very nice letter that said she had her Sunday school class pray for me every Sunday, after she had heard about it from my brother Terry. I’m not a terribly traditionally religious person, but I somehow knew, and I knew it had made a difference.
I got the same feeling from every email and card, that said “our thoughts are with you,” I got it. It really makes me believe in the interconnectedness of life.

My favorite was from another AIG co-worker, Kristina Huff. She told me, when we got together as a group at an AIG Consultants national staff meeting the summer after my recovery, that on her refrigerator she had a map of the US, and a star over California. (She was in Georgia at the time.) She told me every time she went to the refrigerator, she’d look at that map, and that star, think of me, and say a prayer for my recovery.

aig-stone-mtn-2002-kristina.JPG

You know, I’ve been working on this blog for over the month. Thinking about what Kristina told me was the first time I started crying. Yes, Kristina, I knew. Thank you.

And thank all of you.

People who supported me #5 — AIG collegues

February 8, 2007 at 8:00 am | Posted in AIG, Those who supported me during my recovery | 1 Comment

One of the most important groups of people who supported me were my AIG collegues and friends, both in San Francisco and around the country.

I’ve already talked about how important my job was to me, and as I discovered a big part of why it’s important is the people. No one from AIG was able to come to visit, and to be honest being in semi-isolation and not feeling well having visitors from the SF office was not something that would have been good, anyway.

But I got so many cards and emails from all over the country. Like I said, I called Emily first after family when diagnosed. I know Emily had been in contact via email with both those around the country and in SF. And as soon as I had been able to email, I sent messages to all work and family to keep everybody updated.

I have a box in which I keep the get-well cards I got. I gotta say, there must be several hundred in there. Sam would bring in grocery sacks filled with cards that had come in the mail. Everybody in AIG Consultants at that time had sent a card. Most were funny; some were spiritual; some people sent numerous cards, seemingly one each day.

The people in the SF AIG offices didn’t send as many cards, but almost everyone sent emails. They would provide support, but in several cases, they’d talk about what was going on in the office — as if they were just wanting to keep me up to date on news. It was great — made me feel normal in a very abnormal time…..

You’ll never know how much all those cards and emails helped. It really made a huge difference in my outlook. I’ll never be able to express the gratitude I have for the outpouring of support those cards and emails represented.

I can’t name you all individually, but you know who you are.

aig-stone-mtn-2002-last-supper-group-pic-2.JPG

Here’s a picture of the AIG Consultants for healthcare nationwide from the summer of 2002 at our staff meeting in Georgia. The folks who showed that support are around the table. (I call it the “Last Supper” picture, with the then-head of Healthcare consulting at the head of the table.)

aig-stone-mtn-2002-outdoor-group-pic-2.JPG

And another pic from Stone Mountain. (Boy was it hot that day….)

While I don’t have pictures of the claims people in the SF offices who provided so much support, here are more pics from the Christmas party with the UW side of the office from December 2001.

aig-sf-xmas-pty-mark-marcia-me-12-20-01.JPG
aig-sf-xmas-pty-deb-marcia-me-12-20-01.JPG

aig-sf-xmas-pty-deb-smooching-me-12-20-01.JPG

See, I was loved.

People who supported me #4 — family

February 8, 2007 at 7:27 am | Posted in Bruce Timmons, family, Karen Oxner, Terry Timmons, Those who supported me during my recovery | Leave a comment

If you didn’t know my situation before I was diagnosed, you may wonder why my family have not been a part of the history of the diagnosis and treatment thus far. So you’ll know, at the time of my diagnosis I was living in the SF Bay Area, and my sister was in Kenner outside of New Orleans and my brothers were living in Central Texas, where we all grew up. My parents had both passed away a few years earlier.

But that doesn’t mean that my brothers and sisters weren’t a big part of my support during the initial diagnosis. Sam had been in contact with them all, and they had agreed that immediate trips out there weren’t necessary at that time, and that future trips during the recovery would be better. But I do recall talking quite frequently during that first admission over the holidays in 2001. And, they all came out at different times in the first few weeks of 2002 after I went home, as you’ll see.

While we’re not physically together as much due to the distance, I love my siblings, and really appreciated their support. Here’s a great photo of us all, from about 1966….

4-timmons-kids-1966.JPG

…And all of us in a similar photo taken about 35 years later (I’m thinking 1999-2000).

4-timmons-kids-2002.JPG
I was the baby. The oldest Bruce, on the far right, was the first to come out to see me in SF, and he came on my first trip home. Unfortunately he had to go back home about the time I had to be readmitted, but it was great to see him.

My sister Karen is the next oldest, and she was very active helping Sam with as many administrative things from the first days — insurance, disability, etc. That’s her. Always very helpful. She came out a couple of times, if I recall correctly, once when I was on my second hospitalization and once after I came home (or perhaps she was there at the end of the admission). I describe Karen as a cross between Katie Couric, Mother Theresa, and a drill sergeant (being six years younger than her she pretty much raised me, so it wasn’t until not long ago she stopped doing that motherly, helpful, slightly bossy thing).

The one next in age to me is my brother Terry. He came out during some of the worst times of the second hospitalization, when I really wasn’t doing well. It was terrific to see him and see how he supported me — he’s a very busy school superintendent but still found a way to come out. While I honored to be his “best man” at his wedding, I always will think of Terry as one of the best men I know.

I have to give thanks as well to the support of my extended family as well — my uncles, aunts, cousins, nephews, niece, etc. I am absolutely certain that if I had been ill and recuperating in Texas I wouldn’t have been able to chase them out of my hospital room, and they would have done anything for me. I know Karen, Terry and Bruce kept them all updated, and I got several cards and letters from them. They’re great.
Here’s a great photo of some of the extended family from Bruce’s surprise birthday party in January 2004. Scary, I know, but they’re family.

a1.jpg

People who’ve supported me #3 – Susie

January 30, 2007 at 5:31 am | Posted in Susie Engard, Those who supported me during my recovery | Leave a comment

 

Another really really really important person who I have to honor for her support is Susie Engard.

Susie in Maine, October 2002

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

I met Susie as a long time friend of Sam, but in just a very brief time after meeting her we became really good friends. Weshared a joy for hiking in the Bay Area hills, movies, and, of course, eating. Within a few months of moving to the area a typical weekend involved doing something with Susie.

But for purposes of my initial treatment and recovery, Susie was the one who was there that very first day at Stanford. She was there for most of those events of that day, including both the very good (the very good diagnosis and prognosis) and the very bad (the five, count ’em, five bone marrow biopsy attempts that first day). And during the subsequent hospitalizations, she would frequently come over in the morning after work (she was also working night shift as a nurse at that time). I was fortunate not to have much nausea and vomiting during my chemo — plenty of other problems, but not that. She was there for the only time I recall vomiting while in the hospital. (Hey, no one ever said it would all be glamorous.)

After those times, and through the outpatient chemotherapy, Susie was there, supportive. She also gave me the best Christmas gift I ever got, while hospitalized at Stanford with that initial treatment December 2001, when I was just about to embark on the difficult part of the treatment and recovery. It was a battery powered electric candle. On the card on it, she wrote, “To remind you there’s a light at the end of the tunnel.”

light-at-end-of-tunnel-candle-005.jpg
Thanks for providing that light in all you do, Susie.

People who’ve supported me #2 — Emily (and Claudia)

January 27, 2007 at 10:13 am | Posted in AIG, Emily Rhinehart, Those who supported me during my recovery | Leave a comment

Time to introduce and honor someone else who made a big difference in my treatment and recovery.

Emily Rhinehart has been my manager for the last six years, and was at the time of my diagnosis. As you may have read here, she was one of the first persons I shared my symptoms and what I had been thinking was happening (some kind of blood disease, I thought) before the first diagnosis. She was also the first person after Sam I talked to about my diagnosis. She was also the first person whom I broke down and cried while talking to when first diagnosed, and probably the only person other than Sam that I cried in front of during this whole experience.

Emily has been a delight from the beginning to work with. She’s smart, inquisitive, and entertaining to talk to. And to her credit, she’s always told me what a good job I do [wink], and has been very supportive. But more than any of that, her just being there that first night, and helping me through that first moment of weakness, was a moment I’ll never be able to forget.

Emily also played a big communication role throughout my recovery. In the six months I was on disability leave from work, she kept in contact with Sam and me, and kept everyone in AIG — both the consultants nationwide and the healthcare underwriting group in San Francisco — updated.

There were a LOT of people in AIG who made a difference, and I’ll post about them later. But for now, I have to thank Emily individually for helping me through that first night.

In the pic below, Emily is the woman with the shocking white hair. The other person with her is Claudia. Claudia was the consultant who was hired while I was recuperating, and became both a peer and a good friend. The picture was taken at the end of the Bay to Breakers in 2003. We walked together, NO running.

Claudia and Emily, Bay to Breakers, 2004

History #2 – diagnosis – mid-December 2001 – symptoms in Louisiana

January 27, 2007 at 9:58 am | Posted in AIG, Diagnosis and treatment history, Emily Rhinehart, Initial diagnosis of APML, symptoms of APML, Those who supported me during my recovery | Leave a comment

So, after finding the initial bruises in Vancouver but ignoring them, I continued on with life. I did continue to get bruises, and I found myself having trouble walking up the two sets of stairs to get into our condo in Milbrae, CA. But my consulting work, with its travel and desk work, was still doable.

 a.jpg

The second week of December 2001 after the Vancouver trip I went to Louisiana for work. I met my manager Emily, who accompanied on the site visits. I was doing consulting with hospitals, and we went to one hospital. Months later Emily met the hospital staff we met that day at a conference, and mentioned that I had leukemia. They told her they thought something was wrong with me that day, because they had discussed after I left that I seemed pale and my nail beds appeared blue. Creepy.

I must have thought something was up, although I don’t remember it. Emily tells me that at dinner that night I told her I thought I had something wrong, since I was having bruises. She says I thought I had some kind of blood something, but wasn’t sure. She says she downplayed it and told me that she didn’t think anything was wrong. Good thing she’s an infection control/risk management expert and not a diagnostic hematologist.

While in Louisiana, I spent a couple days extra and spent time with my sister Karen and brother in law Rex. That weekend before Christmas they took me to a special dinner at Brennan’s. It was a great event. My sister also remembers me saying something about a blood disorder at that time, but also wasn’t sure what it was. I do remember walking around in New Orleans and thinking I might be sick.

People who’ve supported me #1 — intro, and starting with Sam

January 22, 2007 at 5:52 am | Posted in honoree, symptoms of APML, Those who supported me during my recovery | Leave a comment

One of the things I want to do in addition to just providing the history is to identify, praise and honor those who made a huge impact in my recovery. You never recover from such a devastating disease without a lot of help from a lot of people. So upcoming posts will be about individuals who made a difference.

And help takes a lot of forms. First and foremost it’s those who were there at the bedside and during the recuperation. But it also it’s anyone who send a card, called, emailed, prayed for me, or just kept me in their thoughts. There will be more people than I can ever get to, and if you don’t see yourself on the list yet — just wait, I’ll get to you.

But I have to start with Sam. Click the link below to read more about Sam after the jump.

sam-solo-red-tree-regular-_2-10-02.jpg
Continue Reading People who’ve supported me #1 — intro, and starting with Sam…

Create a free website or blog at WordPress.com.
Entries and comments feeds.